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Alexander’s Steps out from Emotional Hell

  1. Take fault when you’ve messed up.
  2. Act like it was your fault when the problem has to be solved by you.
  3. Approach every problem without negative emotions, wait if necessary.
  4. Approach every problem with the thought “yeah I can do this”, even if you can’t- you will learn.
  5. Walk away from two bad options, sticking it out is a waste of time.
  6. Think of life as a playground; as much as you can never choose to do an uninteresting thing.
  7. Forgive yourself for wasted time.
  8. Find joy in anything you can.
  9. Fixate on mortality, death happens to everyone and loss is natural, remind yourself that everything is temporary.
  10. Trust others first, then assume that rude people don’t know better.
  11. Use common sense in regards to your physical health.
  12. Recognize that in the end, no matter what, you’re going to be okay.
  13. Be willing to take discomfort over comfort as a test of resilience.

These steps have never failed me and I do not suspect they ever will. Many of them I have accumulated through reading self-help books and through getting through tough situations in and outside of school life. They may not be steps toward success, but they pulled me out of emotional hell and I feel there’s something there for each of you too. If you’d like to hear more about them say so in the comments below and I’ll work on an explanation, but I feel these are self-explanatory.


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Wow, this is both informative and from the heart. You really have a special something in how you describe these things, a way of conveying how much you care about others and yourself, a way of making others want to take your advice. I hope your back is ok my friend, nice to see a post from you, it’s been a while!

It has been a while, and I’ll admit I have missed your uplifting comments!

It fills me with so much joy to know that these posts are effective. Thank you for taking the time to read them and say what you think.

Back pain will never bring be down (unless I fall)!

Be well!

The picture though 😂
I really hope that you’ll loosen up in the near future and that you won’t do any type of shopping soon!
I hate shopping too 😑

Oh thank you so much! These things are fun, and I get to meet a lot of new people after doing them! I’ll think about it and make a post when the time comes 🙂 Thank you as always.

Keep writing, my friend!

You write well, and your use of personal experiences really drives the point home. I believe we flourish as humans when we’re exposed to stress, but not the kind of stress that comes from modern life. The incessant drone of your energy bill doesn’t pump you up like a face-off with a lion, or the hunt for prey. And the feeling doesn’t stop when the chase is over. Modern life has really messed us all up.

Keep up your good writing. I’ve taken some food for thought from what you’ve written here. Thanks!

I’m to know glad anything I have written could be helpful to you! I agree, the modern stressors just don’t make sense when compared to historical ones, but the unfortunate truth is both are harmful to the body, and I’m quite thankful we aren’t dealing with any lions or saber-toothed tigers just yet!

Thanks for the kind words. Keep growing my friend!

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