As a teenager I had no capacity to deal with stress. The most minor thing, like bureaucracy or being forced to do an assignment that seemed useless pushed me over the tipping point. As I grew older I learned that at times doing things you don’t want to do helps you move forward, but this still didn’t help me cope with stress. Arguably back then I was under a great deal less stress than I am now, and would not be capable of handling what I handle today.
This change started after I had a panic attack.
This single event derailed me for a good two years. It was likely not my first, and it was not my last- but it pulled my head out of my ass and into a whole new world. It pushed me into a different school, a different major, and far out from my typical emotion-based coping system. After that panic attack, for the first time in my life it was clear that how I felt and what I put on myself was subject to real world limits that I had previously never considered.
I did not begin to recover from that until my senior year at Binghamton- where I discovered, without looking at a psychology book, the methods to stress reduction that turned me into who I am today. I went from a person of emotion-only coping and no resilience, to a person of high resilience, and I believe you can too. The next two pages will encompass my steps and the tools shown to work for most people through the scientific method.